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Do you ever feel overwhelmed with how seemingly unattainable your goals or dreams are? Focusing too much on the ‘big picture’ can do this to us. While it is good to be future-minded, sometimes we need to be more focused on the here and now.

Why is that, you ask?

Celebrating the small wins in your life can help you appreciate the everyday moments that, with clarity and commitment, eventually bring us the long-term success we hope for.

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Does this sound like you? All of this over-thinking, over-analyzing, and doubting, worrying on the hamster wheel to nowhere land?

I understand how your mind thinks because, like you, I struggle with being too future-focused.

It causes me to often deal with “paralysis by analysis.” Then I get frustrated because I haven’t accomplished diddly squat, all while imagining 1,000 ‘what if’ scenarios that don’t solve a thing!

Am I speaking to anyone here? Or am I alone in my mental madness?

Our lives come with all sorts of tragedies, triumphs, and rocky terrain. Our “to-do” lists are overwhelming all by themselves.

It’s easy to feel like you have entirely too much to do and not nearly enough hours to do it with! Right?

If we really think about it though: how much time do we waste each day on meaningless mess? What if we re-directed that time and energy into getting clear on what we want out of life?

Having goals is a wonderful thing. Having clarity in our vision helps us stay on track with wise daily decisions.

I’m not suggesting every moment of the day should be spent being ‘productive.’ I think productivity-obsession is unhealthy.

What I am suggesting is that analyzing where we’re wasting our time needlessly can help us refocus and move toward, instead of away from, any goals we’d like to accomplish.

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Celebrating the small wins means kicking our self-doubt to the curb

We know the thoughts all too well. They tell us we aren’t enough, won’t make it, and that we might as well just give it up.

Heaven forbid we don’t see the progress we hoped to see in the timeframe we hoped to see it.

Don’t be afraid to challenge your fears. Look them in the face and ask yourself questions like these:

  • Is this really true?
  • Why am I feeling this way?”
  • “Are there limiting beliefs about myself I need to address?”
  • “Why can’t I do this? Who said?!?”
  • “Am I afraid of failing…or succeeding?”
  • “What is this feeling trying to teach me about myself?”

What I have found to be true is that facing my fears head on has taught me the most about who I am and what my purpose is.

Consider this: Your greatest gift usually is found in the area of your greatest struggle. What makes you most afraid? What makes you most angry? Pay attention. These are some of the biggest clues to unlocking your purpose.

It’s always darkest before the dawn. A delay in your dream does not mean denial. Celebrate your everyday wins and watch your confidence soar. #success #goals #smallvictories

No matter the goal, no matter the dream — there will always be ups, downs, and everything in between along the way.

Preparing ourselves ahead of time for this reality teaches us not to throw in the towel when the challenges come. And come, they will…

Challenges don’t equal failure unless we choose to quit.

Holly ♥ – wholenesshaven.com

Related Reading: Self Doubt: Stop Doubting Yourself and Start Living

So how do we build confidence by celebrating the small wins?

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It starts with our mindset.

Our flawed human perception seems to make it entirely too easy for us to just focus on our failures and flaws (especially when they’re only imagined in our own heads!).

You’re not alone! Most of us can tell you in a split second what we don’t like about ourselves.

Ask those same people what they love about themselves and watch the effort required to think that follows… It’s tragic, really.

Sometimes it feels like everyone is accomplishing their goals and winning in life, but you, right?

Celebrating the small wins in life reminds us that while we may not be where we’d like – we’ve come a really long way from where we began.

We can be so critical of ourselves that we forget to look at all we HAVE accomplished.

Each and every day, we accomplish things that often happen on ‘auto-pilot.’ Yet they get overlooked because they don’t feel impressive.

In reality, businesses and success are rarely built on the BIG moments. Sure, we may get big breaks, but those big breaks could only come if we first made small steps in the right direction.

Too often, our culture tells us “go big or go home.” This message makes us feel that if we’re not making these huge, monumental strides toward a goal, we must be failing.

Is that really true, though?

Here’s my challenge to you:

Take out a notepad and pen, or the notes app on your phone and log everything you accomplished that day.

Can you still say you accomplished nothing at all?

I seriously doubt it!

You see, we really do forget to celebrate the small, seemingly mundane, everyday wins.

We forget that small steps matter too.

Any forward momentum is going to require that we start somewhere, even if it’s just small, scared steps. Do it afraid.

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When we decide to walk a mile – it doesn’t just magically happen. We take that first step. Then the next, and then another step. Gradually, as we move forward, we arrive at our mile goal.

Our lives, our businesses, our creative ideas, are really no different.

Success is not an accident and there is no such thing as a one-size fits all criteria for how to achieve it, either.

Write your goals down. Break them down into bite-sized chunks. What do you want or need to accomplish? What are some simple steps you can take today to get there?

Take those small, easily attainable ideas and work to fulfill them each day. Become mindful of everything you have achieved.

Setting small goals and achieving them tricks our brains into releasing dopamine, our “feel-good hormone.” Your brain then becomes motivated to get more of the good-feelies which helps you stay focused!

As we learn to be consistent with checking off those boxes each day, celebrating our small wins, we build confidence and trust in our ability to accomplish anything we set out to do.

Everyone starts somewhere

If you press grapes, wine will pour out; if you crush roses, perfume will pour out; if you afflict the talented, genius will pour out.

― Matshona Dhliwayo

Each of these small actions may seem insignificant in the moment. It takes time to see the full fruit of our sacrifices.

You may feel like you’re spinning your wheels going nowhere. Heaven knows, I understand!

When our everyday life doesn’t match what we expect, sometimes we feel lost. At times, we might feel that we haven’t accomplished anything at all.

Just remember – we all must start somewhere. Every successful business started with nothing more than an idea.

Every successful person you admire was once facing the exact same fears, pressures, doubts, and obstacles as you.

Every successful marriage has seen its share of fiery trials. Every successful anything has been tested to the max for endurance.

Quick successes often fall victim to quick endings too. We see trends come and go all the time.

We don’t want a trend. We want a track record.

Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s “arrival.”

Don’t give up on yourself or the hopes inside your heart.

You deserve to live your life on purpose. You deserve to accomplish everything that was prepared for you to do. In fact, we need you to!

You do deserve to live a meaningful life.

You are fully capable!

We can’t allow our lying inner critic to rob us of a life lived on purpose. Nothing is stopping us except the limiting beliefs we believe about ourselves and our situations.

What do you mean, ‘If I can’?,” Jesus asked. “Anything is possible if a person believes.”

The father instantly cried out, “I do believe, but help me overcome my unbelief!”

Mark 9:23-24

What ways can you start celebrating the small wins in your own life?

You have achieved far more than you realize. You have touched more lives than you know. Never underestimate the power of your kindness and your willingness to push through the pain.

What are your current goals and how are you celebrating the small wins in your everyday life?

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below so I can join you in celebrating the small wins in your life!

If this message spoke to you, will you share it with your friends on social media? Thank you so much!

Until next time – I send my love.


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26 Comments

  1. This is such a fabulous post Holly! Celebrating those small wins is so vital to achieving our goals. The most beneficial thing about it is, as you pointed out, that it helps us change and shape our mindset. “We can’t allow our lying inner critic to rob us of a life lived on purpose.” I LOVE this! Sharing everywhere, and sending lots of love and hugs!

    1. Aw, Terri! You have genuinely made my day! Thank you so much, my friend! ♥️ Each and every time you stop in, your comments encourage my heart.

      Our mindset matters far more than we realize. Often, we are fighting old thinking patterns we didn’t even know we had! That is the blessing of opposition and delay, I suppose. It gives us the opportunity to fight back against the lies we believe so we can experience real change!

      I’m so grateful for you sharing, Terri. Your support means the world to me. Rest assured I am sending my love and hugs right back to you. Thank you again. ♥️

    1. Amen, my friend, amen! I wholeheartedly agree. Giving ourselves the grace to make mistakes, grow from them, and keep on celebrating our everyday small wins makes us much better, stronger people.

      Thank you for your sweet comment. I genuinely appreciate you! 🤗

    1. Shell!!! You are going to make me get all teary-eyed. Honestly, you have profoundly touched my heart with your words. More than that, I want to celebrate you for the impact you’ve had on my life. Your inspiration, encouragement, and ‘voice,’ in my life has made a huge difference. I encourage everyone reading this to go to your websites and consider hiring you as a voice coach. You’ve been given a gift and you are stewarding it perfectly. I hope you know, trust, and believe that! God and I both are incredibly proud of you!

      Thank you for the feedback on the audio too. I felt so vulnerable recording in my voice but felt like it added a personal touch and gave everyone an opportunity to not be required to read a long post. (We all dislike the sounds of our own voice, right?) 🤣

      So thankful to have met you, my friend. I echo those same words back to you: YOUR heart is huge and your encouragement is also always right on time! You’re a world changer and life shaker, Shell! ❤ Go get ’em!

  2. So inspiring, thank you. It sure feels overwhelming sometimes, trying to reach our goals and just keep going, but like you said, one step at a time! We do not need to accomplish everything in one go. Consistency is better.

    1. It’s such a blessing to hear from you, thank you, my friend. ♥️

      I agree with you. It can get overwhelming sometimes. We put so much pressure on ourselves every day! It can make us feel nothing short of crazy. One step, one moment at a time, you got it! 😃 life feels much less overwhelming when we look at it from this perspective. We can’t do everything. We do the best we can but sometimes we need to hit the pressure release valve and show ourselves grace. ♥️ As you say, consistency is definitely better.

      Sending my love to you. Hearing from you always makes my day!

  3. Holly!!! What a fabulous post! The advice here is so so valuable from where I stand. And it hit home with me. I get frustrated at times because the “other” in my life keeps me from fully diving into my photography dream which includes travel and getting recognition from a huge audience. My words combined with my pictures are key to my dreams and I see myself soaring and making it big. Yet life has me doing “other”. So, just the other day out loud I declared I deserve to be recognized for what I am doing NOW and that this will be the major stepping stone for me to my future. Since I did that, I honestly am not able to keep up with ALL who are coming to my blog. It has exploded. I am honored and humbled that the Universe knows the talent I hold and what I can contribute to this world. I’ve earned it. So with this “sign” that I was heard, I am now focusing on just one day at a time, making short term plans on what to do etc. And then the FAITH I hold tight in my heart that says I KNOW that what I am doing today is all leading me to the huge recognition that is coming. Am I excited? You bet! And frustration goodbye! Your post is not the only confirmation for me that what is unfolding in my life is real and the Life Purpose I hold is coming to pass in its own way. The pressure is off. I’m free …… SMILE!! xo

    1. Amy, Amy, Amy! You always know just what to say! Thank you first and foremost for your encouragement. You’re amazing.

      I am incredibly excited for you, Amy, and all the good that is coming your way. Amen to what you said — you do deserve to feel and be truly fulfilled in all the talents, gifts, and abilities God has blessed you with. Your photography is a gift and it’s truly breathtaking. To hear that your blog and your photography are taking off thrills me. Amen! What a wonderful, wonderful blessing! I pray that each and every day increases your faith to believe for the ultimate fulfillment of promises in your life.

      Sometimes, it’s in our “other” that we find our opportunity. The place of transition, or other, teaches us so much about who we are, how we are, and where we lack faith. As you say, life purpose begins to unfold and our eyes are opened with understanding to where we’re heading. God bless you, my friend. I pray supernatural favor, peace, and God’s most holy love to consume your every worry and doubt as you co-create with Him and find His goodness at every turn. ❤ You are loved!

      1. Holly, if it were not for the “other” in my life, I would not be the person I am today. That “other” has defined Compassion in me, kindness in me, Love in me, gentleness in me, and a deep endless well of Wisdom. Oh yes I am finding my Purpose in my “other”. It’s God’s way I think to prepare me for what is to come. Without these experiences, I would not be the Compassionate Empath I am today. I’m sure you can relate to what I just wrote!! xoxoxo

      2. Amen, my friend. Amen! I do wholeheartedly relate. We definitely grow in the valleys far more than we do standing on the mountaintop with clear view. Lacking clarity requires faith to keep going. It’s hard but it’s worth every push past pain!

  4. I love this brilliant post. Who decided that you need to do big or go home? I agree; this is so much unnecessary pressure. How about nurturing your talent until you do big. And if not, then this is okay too. Also, I like your sentence that we want a track record. A real tiny progress in the right direction. I love the idea of celebrating the small things that we accomplish each day, and by focusing on that, we achieve much more with time. I hope you are having a good day!

    1. Dearest Svet, what an awesome comment. Thank you so much!

      Exactly! It is unnecessary pressure! We have more than enough of that already. It weighs us down until we can hardly breathe or move! I adore what you said about, “nurturing your talent until you do big.” What a brilliant way to put it, my friend! ❤ It’s the perfect way of looking at it because it allows us to grow. What we learn during our growth sets us up for lasting success later on…

      You are such an encouragement to me, Svet. Thank you for your kindness and support. I appreciate you sincerely! I hope your weekend is outrageously blessed! 🤗

    1. Hi Mitch! Thank you so much for your kind reply! I’m glad you found it helpful. So sorry about the like button not loading. I’ve contacted tech support about it today. Hoping the issue will be resolved soon!

      Wishing you a wonderful weekend ahead!

    1. Michele, you always know how to make my day. Thank you for your great comments! ♥️ You’re right! We are 100% too hard on ourselves! Like you said, when we balance the harder to face stuff in life with rest and reminders of goodness, we keep a much healthier perspective. It’s so important that we remember to enjoy the trip without wishing we’d gotten there already! 😉

      Sending my love and appreciation to you! I hope your weekend is restful and fun!

  5. “Sometimes it feels like everyone is accomplishing their goals and winning in life, but you, right?” < Hahahah YES!

    Such a well-timed and spot-on post. My recent self-confidence post included small wins but I didn't go into any depth. You have done that better than anyone ever could and I LOVE it! Since getting ill, the playing field massively changed. The goals, and how to get to them, changed in tandem. It's now the small stuff that counts and adds up. Sometimes just getting through the day, getting out of bed when you feel awful, doing a tiny bit of a blog post, are all huge wins, even though they seem small. I think that a lot of the time we don't even realise the amazing things we're doing because we're too busy thinking we've not done enough, or measuring what we've done against what others achieve and what we feel we 'should' be achieving.

    Super post, Holly – A HUGE Victory and massive win! xx

    1. I love that the first thing you pointed out was the sentence you chose, Caz! 😁 Isn’t it amazing how incredibly hard we can be on ourselves?

      I’ve got to tell you — I couldn’t stop shaking my head in agreement with you when I read this line of yours: “I think that a lot of the time we don’t even realise the amazing things we’re doing because we’re too busy thinking we’ve not done enough, or measuring what we’ve done against what others achieve and what we feel we ‘should’ be achieving.” — YES!! Oh my goodness, Amen! You couldn’t have hit the nail on the head any better!

      Those coulda-woulda-shoulda- thoughts in our lives need to be buried along with our self doubts. We aren’t nearly kind enough to ourselves. Good grief — how much peace of mind could we enjoy every single day if we realized that we are enough?

      I cannot wait to read your post about self-confidence. I’ve been looking forward to catching up on your blogs. You always know exactly what to say to inspire, uplift, and encourage. You also know exactly what to say to get us thinking about some of the junk we allow each day to run through our minds.

      Caz, above all, I pray that some day in the very near future you realize how special you are! I pray you can take some of the pressure off of yourself and feel intense relief from any anxiety. YOU are enough, you do enough, and your purpose is so very special. ♥ You are loved, and words cannot express how deeply I appreciate you!

      Sending my love through these internet signals in hopes you will feel them and take care of yourself! Thank you for another amazing comment!

  6. Ah Holly! Once again, YOU ROCK!
    I needed to read this today! And every day 😉
    Thank you for the encouragement that you are to me. I have missed you so.
    Sending lots of love your way, across the many miles and bodies of water 😉
    And sending LARGE virtual hugs too 😉 xx

    1. Aww! Dearest Meg, it’s so good to hear from you! I’ve missed you too. How are you? It was a rough go of it the last month or so here, which is why I was so quiet, unfortunately. There was such a thick ‘fog’ and it seemed all I could do was function each day…. whew. Thankfully, God turned the overwhelm into this post, so I pray it helps people! I’m smiling to hear that it was an on time word of encouragement for you, sweet friend! 🤗

      My bet is you know exactly how that feels from writing on your own blogs. You inspire others (including me!) every single day with your words of encouragement and hope.

      Please know that today and every day, I am sending my love and heartfelt prayers across the miles straight to you. I value you, Meg, and your friendship. ❤ I pray you are well!

  7. Such an inspirational and motivational piece, Holly! Thanks so much for sharing this with us. 🙂 Your words are full of wisdom, encouragement, and grace. I love the audio, too! So soothing and easily embraced. Blessings and (((hugs))) across the miles. Wishing you a beautiful day. 🙂

    1. Dearest Natalie,

      You have sincerely made my day. Your words of encouragement, your sharing on social media, but most of all, your friendship and support – mean more than I could ever say!

      Thank you for the feedback on my audio recording as well. I’ll be honest – it felt very vulnerable and I wondered if I should even do it. (We never truly like the sound of our own voice, do we?) To hear that you felt it was soothing and easily embraced brought a smile to my face. I couldn’t ask for anything more than that!

      I am sending endless blessings and hugs across the miles right back to you. Thank you for being such a beautiful, kind-hearted woman. I value you! 💕

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Hi, I'm Holly! Lover of my husband, the Lord, nature and animals (especially cats!) I'm an INFJ (MBTI) which means I love deeply and care about the well-being of those around me and in this world.

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